I often hear from other nurses that they spend so much time on work that they have no time for friends, family or fun activities. Unfortunately, nurses become burned out, work too many hours or experience increased stress at work. Sometimes we become so overwhelmed with life because of over committing ourselves to things. We can’t make them all so we have to back out.
What is balanced living? To me it means making time for yourself in all aspects of your life: emotional well-being, spiritual well-being, health, fitness, recreation, work and relationships. A healthy, positive attitude is critical to maintaining balance and good health. Maintaining focus on your goals, beliefs and values is imperative to one’s happiness and joy in life.
For me, my first go to when I feel stress is my God. I try to stop and focus on God and give Him my worries. He keeps me in perfect peace. God knows exactly what I need and I don’t have to worry about anything. He guards my heart and my mind. It is impossible for me to deal with all the worldly events and my goal in life is to obey God.
For those who choose to manage overwhelm in other ways there are many approaches that one can take. There are good tactics for everyone to achieve balance in life. Your attitude matters. Studies suggest that a good attitude is critical to accepting good habits permanently in your life. They also found that a forgiving attitude toward yourself gives you latitude to make mistakes. This allows you to make better choices next time which is a positive approach to making changes in your life. It takes about 21 days to form a new habit. Habits determine about 95% of our thoughts, feelings and actions. Establish a routine for your activities and keep a calendar for each week to help build new habits permanently in your life.
Here are a few ideas to get you started with a more balanced life:
• Practice relaxation - mindfulness, imagery, meditation or relaxation exercises.
• Find some kind of exercise. Just dance around the house!
• Make daily activities fun- listen to music, use essential oils, cook, read, find new hobbies
• Take a friend to lunch/dinner.
• Find something to laugh about and laugh out loud.
• Eat healthy.
• Sexual activity.
• Take a trip.
• Get away from the phone and internet.
• Be proactive - surround yourself with people who are good for you, end unhealthy relationships
• Be authentic and honest.
• Be positive, have an attitude of gratitude, SMILE.
• Be kind and giving towards others, Pay It Forward!
• It’s OK to say NO.
• Get adequate sleep.
• Develop good problem-solving/decision-making skills.
• Learn to adapt your response to the needs of the situation; don’t respond with emotions.
• Manage your cognitive or emotional response to maximize coping and reducing stress.
• Reflect on the importance of this one thing in relation to the “big picture” of your life. Remember that the way you handle stress is a choice you make. No one is making you feel or respond in a certain way so recognize your power and go with it!
I want to share with you a friend of mine, Betty Franklin, RN, who is a fellow Health and Wellness Coach and an Educator and Author. One of her specialties is stress management. Her website is bettyfranklin.com. She is the author of GUTS in which she discusses the secrets to de-stress and live your life in health, balance, and abundance. You can go to her website to find out more about her book and offerings. You will enjoy her book and presentations.
How do you balance the everyday things in your life?